Now earlier last week, my significant other had to go out of town on business. This would be the absolute first time I've ever had to take care of all three kids alone. Waking up at 6 am, feeding baby, getting the two oldest dressed, fed and off to school. Preparing lunch, getting myself together for work and dropping everyone off on time. Working 9 hours on my feet, driving through 45 minutes of traffic to pick them up by 630. Doing 1st and 2nd grade homework, 10 month old walking (yes, I said walking) around and starting dinner. Bath them up, iron clothes for the next day, rocking baby to sleep...it had to be about 1030 before I realized I hadn't even had time to come out my heels. I take my hat off to the single parents who do it on the daily.
Now my issue came in when I overheard a friend of a friend, referring to the fact that she has two children that live with her mother but she pays her $300.00 a month for child support. I normally don't care how one handles their own private affairs but this chick rents out a condo downtown, drives a nice ass Audi, maintained the same Corporate job for the past two years and faithly hits the club at least once a week. I've seen a case of stupidity like this before but more so with the "Baby's Daddy". But for a grown ass woman to basically pawn off their kids sickens me. When do you decide that whatever is going on at the club takes precedence over your child's upbringing? The first walks, first teeth, first words...you don't get back. I can see if you were in the military or even in some form of rehab or hospital care but you are physically capable of being there but choose not to.
I'm not ok with knowing that someone is tucking my child in each night, that they are now calling someone else "Mommy" and you by first name only. That in a couple of years when that child has grown he's associated nothing to you in the accomplishments he's made. And in one quick moment as I listened to her run down her weekends plans, I couldn't help but wonder at what point in her life will she wake up and realize that her baby now belongs to someone else.
What happened to the mothers that could squeeze a dollar out of fifteen cents? I guess times have changed for everyone. For whatever reason, these so-called mothers think as long as they write that check they're doing their part. Really? Well after my "single mom" experience last week theres no amount of money that can replace the physical when it comes to taking care of kids. So the next time you hear them bragging and boasting about "People are always hating on me, or I'm handling my business", refrain from smacking the shit out of them. These are what I now call "Little Girls" that have their priorities all fucked up!